Many couples wait to start counseling until something drastic happens, sometimes when it may even be too late. Often times the big wake up call and driving impetus for a couple to start counseling is when one partner is caught having an affair or expressing interest in another. This can understandably be a devastating, maddening, and life altering event for both members of the couple to have to address. However, the affair itself is rarely a completely random phenomenon committed by one person devoid of any meaning behind it. In fact, the affair itself is typically the symptom of something else in the dynamic that is more difficult to see, yet more necessary to be addressed. This article compassionately explains why an affair does not have to be the beginning of the end of a relationship, and how you can approach it in an effective way while also taking care of yourself and needs in the process.